Honesty

Where do we draw the line when it comes to honesty?

I keep telling myself to be more honest and this past year I reckon I probably have been.

I will tell my friend if I don’t like her new top, how I feel about her new boyfriend and if shes got a sesame seed stuck in her teeth. I think people deserve to know the truth and god forbid if someone didnt tell me about said sesame seed, I’d be fuming.

 What I’m really trying to get at here is, being honest on the internet. How much is too much?

There are topics I’d like to talk about on here, but the thought of some family members reading it really does make me cringe.

Is there a way to talk about periods, medical conditions, sex and whatever else I want to divulge without offending or resulting in a cringeworthy situation?

Also what is it you can/cant, or are supposed/not supposed to say on the internet, when it comes to being employed? I want to be honest and free in my writing, but right now I feel like I need to be careful because a single phrase may affect my future career... Is this true?

 Right now I have to be realistic, having a small (but wonderful) following won’t make me a living and a self confessed shopaholic (and chocaholic) like me, has things to buy! (aka bills to pay!)

So where do I draw the line?

Will certain companies refuse to employ me if I talk about my menstrual cycle in too much detail?

Will my job applications be rejected if I shoot content of myself in my underwear?

That opens up a whole new conversation about imagery too. If there is a picture of me on the internet with my cleavage on show. Am I less likely to be hired or even just taken seriously?

There’s probably a bigger underlying message here and yes most of my questions are rhetorical, but I wouldn’t mind some actual answers too!

Ultimately worrying about what my family think is the least of my worries, they love me and won’t judge me for what I write about. As long as I’m kind and truthful, I don’t think there is any harm where they are concerned.

My Dad and brothers have no interest in my blog anyway and if there’s something I think will cringe my Mum/Nan/Aunties out, I’ll just tell them to give that post a miss. It’s for the greater good!

More and more the internet (and the world) is becoming a place where you can be yourself, be relatable. So thats what I want to do.

Honesty is the best policy right?

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I wrote this before I heard Oprahs amazing speech at the Golden Globes (if you haven't seen it - LOOK NOW!) and I was a little on the fence about whether or not I should speak freely. I had my post all scheduled to go live, but after hearing her words, I knew I had to add to it.


"For too long, women have not been heard or believed if they dare speak the truth to the power of those men. But their time is up. Their time is up."

"What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have."

Now, in no way am I trying to take away the seriousness of the true meaning behind her speech. I will forever be empowered by all the women who wore black that night, the women who spoke out and stood up throughout history. 

It is all relevant. 

So, whether it is as trivial as a post on my blog or as empowering as the fight for equality. 

Speaking your truth matters. 

Honesty matters. 

"A new day is on the horizon." - Oprah Winfrey

#TimesUp